There’s a battle a lot of us know too well. Your brain says: But deep down, your soul is whispering: That tension isn’t laziness. It’s exhaustion. It’s trauma. It’s burnout. It’s your inner life begging for mercy while your old wiring keeps yelling, “Try harder!” The Lie of “If I Do Enough, I’ll Finally FeelContinue reading “When Your Brain Says “Do More” and Your Soul Says “Please Stop””
Category Archives: Mental health
Before I Couldn’t Even Buy Milk:How My Social Anxiety Is Finally Loosening Its Grip
There was a stretch of my life where a simple errand could wreck my whole day. I’m talking about something as small as going to the grocery store. I’d tell myself, “Just run in real quick, grab what you need, no big deal.”But the closer I got, the louder my brain got: By the timeContinue reading “Before I Couldn’t Even Buy Milk:How My Social Anxiety Is Finally Loosening Its Grip”
Thanksgiving: Grateful for a Second Chance at Life
Thanksgiving used to be just another day on the calendar for me—a blur of food, football, and trying to numb whatever I didn’t want to feel. This year is different. This year, I’m actually present for it. I can feel it. I can name what I’m thankful for without slurring my words or forgetting theContinue reading “Thanksgiving: Grateful for a Second Chance at Life”
Managing My Anger: Learning Not to Explode First
Anger has always been one of my hardest battles. I don’t just “get annoyed”—I can go from calm to ready-to-snap in about two seconds if I’m not careful. Sometimes it’s over big things, but if I’m honest, it’s often over little stuff: a text that sounds off, someone cutting me off in conversation, plans changingContinue reading “Managing My Anger: Learning Not to Explode First”
Learning to Sleep Again: How Rest Became Part of My Recovery
For a long time, I treated sleep like an optional suggestion. If I was exhausted, anxious, doom-scrolling my phone, or replaying old mistakes in my head, I’d just say, “I’ll be fine. I don’t need that much sleep anyway.” Then I’d drag myself through the next day on caffeine, sugar, and pure anxiety. Spoiler: IContinue reading “Learning to Sleep Again: How Rest Became Part of My Recovery”
Living with ADHD: How Medication and Therapy Help Me Show Up to My Own Life
I didn’t wake up one day and suddenly “get” ADHD. It’s been with me my whole life—long before I had a name for it. Looking back, I can see it in the half-finished projects, the “I’ll do it later” that turned into never, the report cards that said “smart, but doesn’t focus.” I always thoughtContinue reading “Living with ADHD: How Medication and Therapy Help Me Show Up to My Own Life”
Christ the King Sunday: Who Has My Allegiance?
Today’s service started like a lot of Sundays do—kids heading out with Miss Twila and the others, ushers coming forward, the offering plates moving up and down the rows. But underneath all the usual church motions, there was a theme that kept coming back around: Who really has my allegiance? Who is my King? AContinue reading “Christ the King Sunday: Who Has My Allegiance?”
When Faith Has a Sense of Humor
A lot of people hear the word faith and picture serious faces, bowed heads, and quiet rooms. And yeah, there’s a place for that. But for me, walking with God also looks like eye rolls, nervous laughter, and shaking my head at some of the ridiculous situations I’ve gotten myself into. If I couldn’t laughContinue reading “When Faith Has a Sense of Humor”
God of Second Chances (and Third, and Twentieth)
There were so many nights I thought, Well, that’s it. I’ve blown it for good this time. You know those moments—the ones where you’ve messed up so badly that even you don’t want to look in the mirror. The ones where you’re sure God has finally had enough. Where you’re convinced you used up yourContinue reading “God of Second Chances (and Third, and Twentieth)”
Inner Peace and Love: Learning to Breathe Again
There’s a different kind of quiet than just “no noise.” It’s that calm that shows up in your chest when you finally stop fighting yourself. That’s inner peace. And most of the time, it’s built on one thing we forget to give ourselves: love. Not the movie kind of love. Not the fake social mediaContinue reading “Inner Peace and Love: Learning to Breathe Again”
If I Could Meet Anyone from History: Why I’d Choose 2Pac
If you could meet a historical figure, who would it be and why? Some people say presidents, inventors, or famous leaders. Me? I’d pick Tupac Amaru Shakur—2Pac. Not because he was perfect. Not because I agree with every lyric, every decision, or every headline attached to his name. I’d pick 2Pac because he was honestContinue reading “If I Could Meet Anyone from History: Why I’d Choose 2Pac”
Faith and Recovery – Why I Need Both
I used to think I had to pick one lane. Either I was going to be “the church guy” who just prayed harder…or “the recovery guy” who just went to meetings and did the steps. Now I know the truth:I need both.If I drop either one—my faith or my recovery—things start slipping fast. Church: RememberingContinue reading “Faith and Recovery – Why I Need Both”
Gratitude When Life Still Hurts
Holidays are funny.You see all the pictures online—matching pajamas, smiling kids, big family dinners—and it looks like everyone else is living inside a Christmas movie. Meanwhile, some of us are just trying to make it through the day without breaking down. If that’s you, I want you to know this: you’re not broken because gratitudeContinue reading “Gratitude When Life Still Hurts”
Prayer: The Conversation That Changed My Life
If you’d told me a few years ago that I’d be writing a blog about prayer, I probably would’ve laughed—or rolled my eyes. I believed in God, sure, but I treated Him more like a last-resort hotline than a Father who wanted to walk with me every day. Now, prayer is woven into my dailyContinue reading “Prayer: The Conversation That Changed My Life”
Honoring Your Father and Mother as an Adult (and How I Try to Honor My Mom and Stepfather)
When we’re kids, “Honor your father and your mother” sounds pretty simple: listen, don’t talk back, clean your room (at least when they’re watching). But when we grow up, life gets more complicated. We get our own opinions, our own beliefs, our own ways of doing things. Sometimes we look at our parents and think,Continue reading “Honoring Your Father and Mother as an Adult (and How I Try to Honor My Mom and Stepfather)”
Why It’s Okay to Be “Selfish” in Recovery
Most of us grew up hearing: “You’re selfish.” “You only think about yourself.” Then addiction came and proved that true in ugly ways. We lied, used, and hurt people. So now, in recovery, the last thing we want is to be called selfish again. But here’s the twist: In recovery, you actually have to beContinue reading “Why It’s Okay to Be “Selfish” in Recovery”
If I Perish, I Perish: How a Sunday Sermon Challenged My Faith and Recovery
Walking into church this morning, it felt like one of those Sundays where the air is already charged before the first song ends. Kids heading one way, ushers moving the other, people shuffling bulletins and coffee cups, “Amen” and “Hallelujah” bouncing around the room. Just a normal Sunday… until it isn’t. Today we walked throughContinue reading “If I Perish, I Perish: How a Sunday Sermon Challenged My Faith and Recovery”
When the Craving Hits: Staying Sober When Your Brain Says “Just One”
Let’s be honest: Recovery would be a whole lot easier if cravings didn’t exist. If it was just make a decision, never want it again, most of us would’ve been done years ago. But that’s not how addiction works, and it’s not how our brains work either. Cravings are part of recovery.They don’t mean you’reContinue reading “When the Craving Hits: Staying Sober When Your Brain Says “Just One””
Respecting Our Friends… Even When We Don’t Agree
There’s this weird lie a lot of us picked up growing up: “If you really love someone, you’ll agree with them. And if you don’t agree, you must not love them.” That lie wrecks families. It ends friendships. And it keeps a lot of us angry, bitter, and alone. The truth? You can love someoneContinue reading “Respecting Our Friends… Even When We Don’t Agree”
Changing People, Places, and Things in Recovery-Why Letting Go Is Sometimes the Most Loving Thing You Can Do
If you’ve spent any time in recovery rooms, you’ve probably heard the phrase: “You gotta change your people, places, and things.” When I first heard that, I rolled my eyes. Sure, I thought. I’ll just throw my whole life in the trash and start from scratch. No big deal. But the longer I’ve stayed sober,Continue reading “Changing People, Places, and Things in Recovery-Why Letting Go Is Sometimes the Most Loving Thing You Can Do”
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