What matters isn’t how a person’s inner life finally puts together the alphabet and numbers of his outer life. What really matters is whether he used the alphabet for the declaration of war or the description of a sunrise-his numbers for the final count at Buchenwald or the specifics of a brand-new bridge. Fred RogersContinue reading “THE WORLD ACCORDING TO MR. ROGERS”

Identify Your Losses

One reason grief disrupts so many aspects of your life is because your loss is not one isolated loss. You will miss so many qualities and facets of the person you lost that each will become an opportunity to experience grief. The range of things you need to grieve for may surprise you. Identify yourContinue reading “Identify Your Losses”

Grief Is Disruptive

Grief affects everything you do. It can disrupt every aspect of your life in ways you might not expect. “I don’t think I had time to think because psychologically I wasn’t with it,” says Nancy, whose husband passed away. “I would do stupid things. I would be coming home thinking I was on X Street,Continue reading “Grief Is Disruptive”


“Love like me that shit is on a different level. A level that most can’t understand. It’s intensely pure and unconditional. I’m not perfect I make mistakes, but I love like no other. The day I learn to love myself the way I love others, the world better be prepared to see something incredible”. -JoshuaContinue reading “JUNE 16TH-FOOD FOR THOUGHT”


You don’t ever have to do anything sensational for people to love you. When I say, “It’s you I like,” I’m talking about that part of you that knows that life is more than anything you can ever see or hear or touch… that deep part of you that allows you to stand for thoseContinue reading “THE WORLD ACCORDING TO MR. ROGERS”

Another girl from nowhere

She laughed without fear. She smiled so confidently. She loved so fiercely. She protected her life and her kids like it were her job. Who was she? Where did she come from? How did she have this amazing soul? Would you of known she had been through great struggles? She battled man after man. SheContinue reading “Another girl from nowhere”


Forgiveness is not tricky. We make it difficult. It is easier to forgive a stranger than it is to forgive a family member or a close friend. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realizing the prisoner is you. Forgiving others is freeing. It is to let go of the longing for theContinue reading “FORGIVENESS”


I think the young feel pressured by the older generation. But I realized it isn’t just the older generation doing the pressuring. Young people are pressuring older people to change, too, and it can make us feel uncomfortable. But it isn’t all bad either. I know how much I learned from my parents and teachers,Continue reading “THE WORLD ACCORDING TO MR. ROGERS”


Avoid people that are constantly judging other people. They don’t have the ability to recognize we are all human and make mistakes, and they don’t know everything you are struggling with. It is easy for them to judge others because they don’t want to deal with their own issues. -Joshua Bridges The quality of aContinue reading “JUNE 14TH-FOOD FOR THOUGHT”

Grief Is Harder Than You Think

The hardest time to learn about the process of grief is while you are in the midst of it. You may feel that you are taking a crash course in grief and that the learning curve is formidable. But those who seek to understand grief and loss will be better able to recover, so weContinue reading “Grief Is Harder Than You Think”


I want to talk about suicide for a minute. I have all the topics people have sent me, and I appreciate them, and I’m slowly hitting each one. I have them written down as they come in. I need to talk about this right now because suicide is a very sensitive and important topic thatContinue reading “SUICIDE “

Unpredictable Emotions

The unpredictable timing and odd combinations of emotions that hit you during grief can leave you confused and despairing. “My life was totally flipped upside down emotionally, in every way you could think of,” says Sue, whose husband died. Your emotions not only hit hard, but they can also occur at unexpected moments, which makesContinue reading “Unpredictable Emotions”


I came across this boy sitting on the side of a country road one morning. He could have only been like 12 years old. I thought maybe he was lost or hurt. He was crying, and sitting next to him was an empty bottle of black velvet. I pulled over and got out. I walkedContinue reading “THE INTERVIEW WITH ME”


JUNE 11TH – FOOD FOR THOUGHT “Pay attention to how others treat you; secretly, their intentions may be to hurt you because they are not you.” -Joshua Bridges You have not lived today successfully unless you’ve done something for someone who can never repay you. -John Bunyan Some men have thousands of reasons why theyContinue reading “JUNE 11TH – FOOD FOR THOUGHT”


If you could only see the way I could love you, time would stop. The rivers would overflow, the sun would never stop shining, and tears of happiness would only exist. You could never break my heart because you would have been the one that mended it. In the storms of my insanity, you willContinue reading “A LETTER TO MY SOULMATE”